A door slammed in our faces…A hope that had been raised so high, dashed to pieces…An expectation that had us excited, overnight disappeared into a cloud… We are familiar with disappointments. At one time or another, we have been there – the familiar feeling of having our hopes crash. What is it about disappointment that pushes us to close our hearts and place it somewhere safe and untouchable?
Actively thinking about our thoughts, emotions, behaviours, relationships and experiences helps us to grow, connect and move from an experience to self understanding. A powerful tool.
There are many of them out there. You may have encountered some of them as part of training, coaching or self-awareness exercises or workshops. Many more are available on Internet. Most of them have a cost associated with them and comes in the form of a ques-tionnaire either online or manually with paper and pencil. After you respond to the ‘survey’, you will receive a report describing and labeling some of your behaviors, characters, strengths or personality type. It is best you go over your report in the presence of a skilled assessor or coach. Reading it by yourself, has limited value as what matters is the conversations.
SFBT was originally developed in the USA in the late seventies by Steve De Shazer and Insoo Kim Berg.The aim of solution focused brief therapy is to make interventions brief, efficient and easily understandable by clients.
Teicher, 2010, shared some interesting facts on how early stress programs our stress hormone systems to have a more exaggerated and prolonged response to subsequent stressors. He shared further on how the impact of early stress on the developing brain depends on timing, vulnerability of specific brain regions, and genetic factors. There was greater corpus callosum area reduction in maltreated children and adolescent which affected their left and right brain hemisphere connections.
Dr Jill Bolte Taylor (2008) described her experience of experiencing a brain stroke and her deep realization of human beings being a life force of the universe with two cognitive minds. It was interesting how she described that her recovery was based on the creative energy from the right hemisphere. We know how the left and right hemisphere functions very differently and the connection between the two is through the corpus callosum.